February 15, 2016

Valentine’s Day Take Away

Valentine’s Day Take Away

The whole Valentine’s Day/Anti-Valentine’s Day beef I have is that it puts undo pressure on being romantic/in a relationship—or on making a show of not caring about it, which is in fact just another way of showing you care about it. 

If you’re not with someone, that’s okay. Even people with someone today were alone prior, or may be alone again one day. That’s the ebb and flow of life.

If you are with someone, if it’s solid, any day is a good day for affection. I’m no relationship expert, but if you need a special occasion for romance, there might be deeper problems than one fancy dinner and flowers can fix.

So we ordered in from a local healthy Chinese take out joint. Which we then obliterated with the chocolate cake Michelle baked. And we topped it all of with some champagne. And yes, I bought her chocolates. Because after ten years, that sort of sums up our marriage: casual, comfortable, but always worth making a little effort. Not just today, but every day.

So I hope you had a nice day, whatever you did, with yourself or whomever you were with. Because ultimately the specifics of what you do don’t matter much, it’s the emotions behind it.